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    When You’re Falsely Accused of a Gun Crime – 12 Things You Need to Know
    Published on Wednesday, November 28, 2012

    Until you’re accused of a crime, you may be blissfully ignorant of the fact that “innocent until proven guilty” is a myth. In reality, it’s the opposite. Michelle Gesse, whose husband lived the nightmare of being falsely accused of a firearms related felony, explains what all Americans need to know now about the criminal justice system.
    Bogus Allegations

    Bogus Allegations

    Boulder, CO (November 2012)—The scary part of this story is how easily it could happen to any one of us.

    Steven and Michelle Gesse thought that the small dinner party they hosted on the night of April 5, 2009, would be just that: an informal, pleasant gathering of neighbors over good food and good wine.

    Instead, it turned out to be the beginning of a nightmarish spiral into a confusing and frightening justice system that in practice, if not in theory, considers you to be guilty until proven innocent.

    “During dinner that night, my husband, Steven, made an offhand comment that offended one of our guests,” recalls Michelle Gesse, author of the new book Bogus Allegations: The Injustice of Guilty Until Proven Innocent (Johnson Books, March 2012, ISBN: 978-1-55566-450-3, $17.95). “We were not even aware that she was offended since the remainder of the evening passed pleasantly. But what took place later that night changed the course of our lives forever. Never, in a million years, could we have imagined it could happen to us.”

    Steven and Michelle were stunned and terrified when the neighbor’s son, who had also been a guest at the dinner party (and was an active Navy Seal), returned later in the evening threatening Steven and demanding an apology. Thinking, Okay, I’ll go over and apologize and be done with it, Steven went next door to try to smooth things over.

    Later that night the Gesses were shocked when law enforcement officers arrived at their home in the middle of the night to arrest Steven and search their home. As it turned out, Michelle reports, the son of the offended guest had falsely accused Steven of threatening him with a gun.

    Over the next seven months, she would watch helplessly as her innocent husband was treated by the justice system as a criminal whose guilt was already assumed.

    “Steven’s name—but not his accuser’s!—was printed in all the local newspapers in connection with the case,” she describes. “We were in and out of court, and were forced to spend our retirement money to fund Steven’s defense. And as part of the conditions of his bail, Steven had to receive special permission to leave the state, and had to meet regularly with a drug counselor.

    “He even had to appear for random breathalyzer tests,” she adds. “While it may not seem like a big deal on the surface, it meant he couldn’t even enjoy a glass of wine with dinner and had to be available for the test whenever required. That’s just how deeply this experience insinuated itself into the fabric of our day-to-day lives.”

    On October 28, 2009, Steven Gesse was found not guilty of Felony Menacing and Prohibited Use of a Weapon by a jury. Yet being exonerated did not make up for the fact that he had been treated like a convicted felon. The unfairness of it all set Michelle Gesse on a mission to shine a spotlight on the injustices of the American justice system—and to make people aware of what to do in case they are ever falsely accused.

    “Proving that Steven was innocent—innocent!—cost us, not Steven’s false accuser, so much time, stress, energy, and money,” Gesse says. “That’s not what I had pictured ‘justice’ to be before experience taught me otherwise. Now I know, among other things, that you need a committed lawyer and a healthy bank account to beat a completely bum rap.”

    Of course, few people give much thought to what they should do (and not do) if they are falsely accused. But like the Gesses, prior to their ordeal, you too might have an “it’ll never happen to me” attitude. But the truth is, there’s no way to know for sure what curveballs life might have in store—and it’s better to be safe than sorry.

    Read on for 12 lessons that Michelle Gesse has learned in the Criminal Justice School of Hard Knocks. Having this information beforehand might make a huge difference if you or a loved one is ever falsely accused of a crime.

    Have an “arrest plan” in place (yes, it could happen to you). Generally, people don’t assume that their homes will catch fire. Statistically speaking, it’s not a likely occurrence. But most people still take out homeowner’s or renter’s insurance, just in case. Likewise, though you hope it’ll never happen, you teach your child to scream and run if accosted by a stranger. You’ve probably considered what you’d do if someone approached you in a dark parking lot. And depending on where you live, your family may have a wildfire, hurricane, tornado, or earthquake plan in place. In the same way, says Gesse, you should think through and be prepared for a possible arrest.

    “None of us think something like this could happen to us, but it is possible that at some point in your life you or someone you love may be arrested,” she says. “It could be your spouse, your child, a relative, or a good friend. What would you do if this happened? Would you be forearmed with any strategy or knowledge, or would you be floundering, completely at the mercy of ‘the system’? Believe me, it’s a good idea to think about what you would do if you were confronted by the police at your own front door, or how you might respond if you received a phone call telling you that a loved one had been arrested. That disaster may have a higher probability than many of those for which you have prepared.”

    Likewise, it is wise to have “the talk” with your kids beforehand. This particular “talk” should be about what they should do if they are ever arrested or interrogated by law enforcement officers, regardless of the reason.

    Be the first to call 911. The person to call 911 is always going to be considered the victim, regardless of the circumstances. If you find yourself in any sort of threatening situation, whether it’s with a family member, friend, coworker, or complete stranger, don’t hesitate. Be the first to call 911. While it may not seem “right” or “fair,” the first person to call 911 is going to be regarded as the victim, regardless of the facts or the truth.

    “Even though he was telling a blatant lie, Steven’s accuser was treated by law enforcement as the victim since they heard his version of the story first,” Gesse recalls. “As we learned, once you have been taken into custody, you have been classified as the perpetrator of the crime. The so-called victim will receive support from victims’ advocates, the press, law enforcement, the community, etc., while you and your family are on your own to clear your name. Trust me, being the first to pick up the phone can save you an unimaginable amount of stress, time, notoriety, and money.”

    Everyone involved has the right to remain silent. Imagine the following scenario: Your spouse (or any loved one) has just been handcuffed and taken away from your home in a police car. You are out of your league with no idea what is going on, and you’re struggling with feelings of anxiety, panic, confusion, and fear. Meanwhile, other officers and detectives have remained at your residence. Your first instinct is to talk to them, to tell them the truth about what happened, and to prove to them that your spouse has done nothing wrong. Don’t.

    “Even if you aren’t the person being accused of a crime, exercise your right to remain silent!” Gesse stresses. “Don’t talk to anyone without a lawyer present. I shouted that very warning at my husband as the police put him in the squad car, but it never occurred to me that I should follow my own advice as I sat at home with a deputy waiting for the search warrant to arrive. In court I was grilled by the prosecution about what I said and what I didn’t say. If Steven had been found guilty because of something I’d said, or a fact I hadn’t mentioned had put doubt into the jury’s minds, I would never have forgiven myself.”

    Insist on a search warrant, even if you have nothing to hide. “Can we search the house?” If you know that you have not committed any wrongdoing and have nothing to hide, you may be tempted to answer this question with a “yes.” The more cooperative I am, the sooner this will be over, you reason. Maybe the officers will even see that I’m innocent, and my family will never be bothered again.

    “Squelch the impulse to be open and helpful, and don’t allow anyone to search your house without a warrant,” Gesse instructs. “Insisting on the warrant was probably the smartest thing I did the night my husband was arrested. As I found out later, it can tell your lawyer what the police were looking for. And if the search wasn’t executed properly, having the warrant might make whatever was found ineligible to be introduced as evidence. Remember, it’s always best to have physical documentation when you’re dealing with the criminal justice system.”

    Realize that the criminal justice system is hard on the innocent. If you have ever watched one of the many television shows or movies that’s based around the legal system, you might take it for granted that the law officers, investigators, and prosecutors are going to search for the truth and examine the evidence before prosecuting. According to Gesse, that’s Hollywood—reality looks very different.

    “The criminal justice system in the U.S. is a ‘flow system,’” she explains. “By that, I mean that the system wants to dispose of as many cases as quickly as possible. They do this by negotiating plea bargains. A plea bargain is the quickest and least expensive way for them and for you to end the process. Accepting a plea bargain even to a lesser offense, however, may mean having a criminal record as well as having conditions imposed on you like alcohol testing, community service, or limits on travel. Would you be willing to do that if you knew you were innocent? My husband wasn’t willing to make that sort of deal (with my full support), and we ended up paying financially and emotionally for not playing the game the system’s way.”

    Expect to be treated like you’re guilty. Again, what you see on TV and what happens in real life are two different things. As Gesse has pointed out, the criminal justice system is focused on prosecution and on garnering guilty verdicts, so don’t expect a full-scale Law and Order- or CSI-type investigation. Instead, expect to be prosecuted even if the facts and evidence don’t support a guilty verdict.

    “Unless your case is extremely high-profile, it’s unlikely that the prosecutor will even review the case file until shortly before the trial,” Gesse says. “And the prosecutor will proceed even when the supposed victim indicates that he or she prefers to put an end to the proceeding. Meanwhile, you might be forced to live under court-ordered stipulations that resemble nothing so much as parole.

    “For instance, Steven had to submit to random alcohol testing, had to meet with a drug counselor, couldn’t be in proximity to weapons, and couldn’t leave Colorado without special permission. Not to mention the fact that we were in and out of court and his name was in the newspaper, while the supposed ‘victim’ walked free in anonymity! After Steven was acquitted, we practically had to beg the newspaper to run a story announcing that he had been found innocent.”

    Proving your innocence comes with a very high price tag. Since Steven Gesse did not take the plea bargain he was offered and instead maintained his innocence, he paid a very high price. Proceeding to trial doubled the Gesses’ legal expenses and made the process last twice as long. In contrast, the false accuser did not have to pay legal fees, and his transportation to and from the trial was covered. And the sad reality is that the Gesses had no recourse to either the individuals or the legal system that falsely accused them and prosecuted them even after Steven was found not guilty.

    “We do not in any way regret the decision to proceed to trial,” Gesse confirms. “It was the right decision for us, but many families will not have either the financial or emotional resources to successfully undertake this course of action. You need to know the costs in advance before deciding to go ahead. Yes, I know, it seems incredibly unfair—even unbelievable—that an innocent person would have to spend thousands upon thousands of dollars to prove that he has done nothing illegal. But that’s reality.”

    Getting a lawyer doesn’t imply guilt. (In fact, innocent people need the most help!) Chances are, you’ve seen a TV show in which someone being questioned by the police asks, “Do I need a lawyer?” And the questioner responds with something like, “If you’re innocent, why would you need a lawyer?” or, “Just tell the truth. If you have nothing to hide, you won’t need an attorney.” Yes, these television personas make it seem like getting representation implies guilt. But if you’re ever falsely accused of a crime in real life, you’ve never needed a lawyer more.

    “In my opinion, the innocent need legal help even more than the guilty,” Gesse says. “Think about it this way: You wouldn’t travel to a dangerous foreign country without hiring a good guide. And for all intents and purposes, the legal justice system is a dangerous foreign country. As an innocent person, you have no idea what’s going on, what to expect, or how to handle the many obstacles that will be thrown in your path. You certainly aren’t equipped to represent yourself in court. So yes, you’ll definitely need the help of an experienced professional if you don’t want to end up serving time for a crime you didn’t commit.”

    Don’t skimp on a lawyer. If you are falsely accused of a crime and decide to proceed to trial, don’t skimp on a lawyer. This is not the time to save money. If your finances are tight, shop at discount stores and give up steak and wine—but don’t look for bargain legal counsel.

    “If you go to trial, you want the best lawyer you can afford…or perhaps one a tad more expensive than you can afford,” Gesse asserts. “Personally, I’d rather go into debt than go to jail for something I didn’t do. If you simply cannot afford a lawyer, public defenders are an option. I’ll put in the caveat that I’m by no means an expert, but my impression is that a public defender will try to dispose of your case by urging you to take a plea bargain offer. Public defenders are overworked and have a lot of cases, so again, they’re probably looking for the easiest and fastest ‘solution.’”

    You’re not as alone as you think you are. If you ever find yourself or a loved one falsely accused of a crime, you’ll probably feel alone and totally adrift. But keep in mind that more people than you would ever expect have found themselves in this situation. Unfortunately, an unwarranted sense of shame keeps most falsely accused individuals from sharing their stories. Don’t be afraid to do your own research on the subject of “false accusations” or to reach out to others who have been there. You will need to establish your own safety net of a very small number of individuals with whom you can confide.

    “I have been amazed by the number of people who have told me similar stories about themselves, their family, or friends after Bogus Allegations was published,” Gesse shares. “These stories include an ex-boyfriend accusing a former girlfriend of a felony in order to get her deported, an ex-wife accusing her former spouse of hiding financial assets, and a teenage girl accusing a young man of inappropriate sexual advances. I promise you, you are not alone. And the advice and experiences of others—especially during your ordeal—can be an invaluable resource.”

    Be prepared for an emotional roller coaster. If the process of going to trial is financially costly, it’s every bit as brutal on your emotional reserves. Expect for everyone in the family to feel stress, fear, anger, and exhaustion (just to name a few) on a regular basis. You might cry easily, little things will make you mad, and your sex life will likely suffer. So cut yourself and your loved ones some slack, and be easy on yourselves. This is not the time to go on a diet or start a new job. And don’t worry—feeling this way is normal.

    “The seven months between when my husband was arrested and his trial were more stressful than watching both of my parents die of a fatal disease,” Gesse admits. “During those periods I could talk to friends. Everyone in my life was supportive. It was socially acceptable to fall apart. I wasn’t ashamed that my parents and I were going through the process. And there are plenty of available resources on how to deal with the death of a parent. However, none of that is the case when you’re dealing with the wrongful prosecution of a loved one. You can never escape the stress and strain, and there are very few emotional outlets available to you.”

    You’ll find out who your true friends are. If you are wrongfully accused of a crime, you’ll probably be surprised and saddened by the number of people in your life who don’t want to be involved. People whom you had considered to be friends may pull away, become distant, or even refuse to help. Unfortunately, many individuals may feel so awkward even approaching the topic that they avoid it, denying you the support you need so badly. Sadly other “friends” may assume that since you have been arrested, you are probably guilty.

    “A neighbor Steven and I had considered to be a very close friend attended the dinner party that sparked our whole nightmare,” Gesse recalls. “We assumed that of course he would be fully ‘on our side’ and willing to do whatever was necessary to clear Steven’s name. However, this man initially refused to even speak to our lawyer. He and his wife considered the situation to be ‘something between two neighbors’ and didn’t want to get involved. Steven and I were bitterly disappointed by what we saw as abandonment and betrayal. However, I do want to point out that other friends stepped up and went above and beyond the call of duty throughout those long seven months.”

    “I can’t stress enough how important it is to know the facts about the criminal justice system, and to think about what you would do if you or someone you love is ever falsely accused,” Gesse states. “No, it will probably never happen to you. (I sincerely hope it doesn’t!) But if you ever find yourself in my family’s shoes, you’ll need all of the knowledge and resources you can possibly get your hands on.

    “I used to think that the innocent had nothing to fear,” she concludes. “Now I know that the opposite is true. Our country’s criminal justice system puts the heaviest burden on the defendant…whether the accusations are well-founded or not.”


    Michelle lives in Boulder, CO, with her husband, Steven. Before the incident described in Bogus Allegations, Michelle and Steven never thought that they would get involved in the criminal justice system.

    For more information, please visit www.michellegesse.com.

    Read more at Ammoland.com: http://www.ammoland.com/2012/11/28/b...#ixzz2DrI5WOqi

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    Default Re: What to do when you are targeted by the injustice system....

    That really puts shit into perspective. I wonder if they in turn filed a civil suit for defamation of character, filing false charges etc to try and recoup their financial and emotional burden.

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    Default Re: What to do when you are targeted by the injustice system....

    How do you:

    2. Be the first one to call the police give them your story first

    And, still,

    3. Exercise your right to remain silent. "Your first instinct is to talk to them, to tell them the truth about what happened, and to prove to them that your spouse has done nothing wrong. Don’t."

    How do you do both?

    Sounds like I don't want to read this book.

    If anybody has better advice, please share with me.

    Since these people seem to have learned little that is usable, and their No. 1 "Plan" advice is flawed by #2 and # 3 which conflict with one another.

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    Default Re: What to do when you are targeted by the injustice system....

    Quote Originally Posted by ungawa View Post
    How do you:

    2. Be the first one to call the police give them your story first

    And, still,

    3. Exercise your right to remain silent. "Your first instinct is to talk to them, to tell them the truth about what happened, and to prove to them that your spouse has done nothing wrong. Don’t."

    How do you do both?

    Sounds like I don't want to read this book.

    If anybody has better advice, please share with me.

    Since these people seem to have learned little that is usable, and their No. 1 "Plan" advice is flawed by #2 and # 3 which conflict with one another.
    This was exactly what I was going to post, that calling 911 effectively waives your 5th Amendment rights, without actually buying you that "victim" status.

    Besides, what would the husband have told 911? "My neighbor's kid came over so I apologized to his mom. Could you send an officer right over?"

    The 911 logs are filled with people who were later arrested for the reported incident. George Zimmerman called 911 and is awaiting trial. Harold Fish called 911 and was convicted, although he squeaked by on appeal and a change in state law. Seems like every spouse who murdered the unwanted partner called 911 and tearfully reported the missing "loved one"; we've heard the recordings on TV.

    There is no truth to the helpful-to-police lie that you should always protect yourself by calling the cops and laying out your story. By doing so, you cement one version of the facts and you'll be unable to correct that later. You positively identify yourself as the perp, and you admit to some version of the events with which they'll charge you.

    Don't get me wrong, sometimes calling 911 is in your best interests. But it is a myth that the first to call 911 is always treated as the victim.
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    Default Re: What to do when you are targeted by the injustice system....

    Quote Originally Posted by JStem1283 View Post
    That really puts shit into perspective. I wonder if they in turn filed a civil suit for defamation of character, filing false charges etc to try and recoup their financial and emotional burden.
    ^Seems like writing a book is gonna be easier for them.^

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    Default Re: What to do when you are targeted by the injustice system....

    Those same misstatements had me wondering about the initial contact with the Navy Seal son from next door. Was there a very heated argument, did it get physical at all?

    Whatever the case, anti-gun people see a firearms owner as having the capacity to use force; then they go and use the force of the state in a preemptive attack.

    Nice.
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    Default Re: What to do when you are targeted by the injustice system....

    Quote Originally Posted by ungawa View Post
    How do you:

    2. Be the first one to call the police give them your story first

    And, still,

    3. Exercise your right to remain silent. "Your first instinct is to talk to them, to tell them the truth about what happened, and to prove to them that your spouse has done nothing wrong. Don’t."

    How do you do both?

    Sounds like I don't want to read this book.

    If anybody has better advice, please share with me.

    Since these people seem to have learned little that is usable, and their No. 1 "Plan" advice is flawed by #2 and # 3 which conflict with one another.

    Your comment is fair. I tend to be on the side that says don't call the police, but there may be situations in which that could be your best option. If calling 911 is your preferred option, perhaps calling and giving only enough info to make a record of the call but not enough to incriminate yourself could be plausible and effective.

    The bottom line: ANY CONTACT/INTERACTION WITH POLICE IN TODAY'S AMERIKA MAY RESULT IN YOUR DEATH, THE DEATH OF YOUR PETS OR LOVED ONES OR IF YOU ARE "LUCKY" AN ENSUING LEGAL BATTLE WITH THE ALMIGHTY AND OMNIPOTENT STATE THAT MAY ULTIMATELY END IN YOUR FINANCIAL RUIN AND/OR UNJUST INCARCERATION.

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    She does make some good points that would benefit most people, except for the few inconsistancies that were pointed out. I know where she is coming from. I was once falsely accused of rape. I did not get arrested or go to jail, and doing the opposite of "don't talk to police" actually worked for me.

    I was staying at a friend's house while his parents were out of town. A few other firends came over and brought some alcohol with them. No one got really drunk, just a few beers each. The friend whose house it was called up some girl he had the hots for and asked if I could go pick her up. I did. We were all hanging out and out of beer when I decided it was time to call it a night and said I was going to sleep on the couch in the living room. The two guys who brought the beer said they were going to sleep in the rec room downstairs because it was too hot in the living room.
    Friend goes upstairs with girl and I couldn't go to sleep because of them giggling (i'm a very light sleeper) Eventually they cut the crap and I went to sleep. Next morning they come down to the living room and wake me up with more giggling and grab-assing. Girl soon says she needs a ride home, and I oblige. She asks if I want to stop for breakfast. We do and I buy. I drop her off at her house.
    Few days later my mom rousts me out of bed and says the cops are downstairs and want to talk to me. They don't let me put any clothes on so i go down to talk to them in my tighty-whiteys. Cop (there was only one) tells me this girl accused several of us (names our names) of gang rape. The worst feeling of dread I have ever felt comes over me and I'm thinking "oh shit, I'm being framed this only happens on tv."
    Cop says I'm screwed because she can describe my car down to very minor details (type of hubcaps, sticker on dashboard, stain on carpet).
    Being a young and cocky know it all, I asked why he didn't think it was a bit fishy that someone would be able to recount all of those details after supposedly being the victim of a violent crime. I laid out all of the details about what happened and her demeanor in the morning and the fact that we went to breakfast, and asked how she knew all of our first and last names when no one's last name was ever mentioned while we were there. The cop says I have interesting points and he will talk to her further. That's the last I hear about it, from a legal perspective.
    Weeks later I am confronted by two guys at a fair that claim to be friends of hers and we get in a scuffle after they decide to (try to) kick my ass. Word about the supposed rape goes around my school and I have to hear constant comments about it from people. More fights ensue. To this day (this incident was in 1990) I still hear comments in certain social settings "why are you hanging around that guy, didn't he rape some girl back in high school", etc.
    Eventually the truth got out that this girl was an only child of divorced parents, and her father left her alone when he went on business trips and that she was lonely and wanted attention. She admitted to her friends she made the whole thing up.
    I could have gone to jail and have a soured reputation in certain circles to this day. I am not sure to this day whether my mom believes my side of the story or not. Two of the other friends that were there that night were pissed at me for years because I gave their contact information to the police as witnesses. So, like I said, I get where this lady is coming from.

    Sorry about writing the book. It was actually theraputic. And thanks for reading it if you actually tokk the time to do so.

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    Read it and sorry about your injustice. Social ostracization is a terrible thing when not based on a conviction. One could see parents being cautious which is unfortunate, however.

    The retraction never becomes news. That's why I believe in criminal and civil prosecutions. The downside is, if everyone prosecutes, no one would ever recant.

    I would say it was easy for police to find a waitress or someone who saw you at the restaurant eating peacefully. Perhaps there was video as well (even if only walking in and out).
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    Default Re: What to do when you are targeted by the injustice system....

    It's a terrible thing, and I recognize that it does happen. Recently there was that HS football star who was falsely accused of rape, he spent YEARS in prison until the accuser blabbed on social media that she made the whole thing up.

    However, I do think that these things are thankfully rare. Our system isn't perfect, far from it. But it's still infinitely better than the injustice systems that came before ours, and continue in other parts of the world.

    While mistake do happen, and LEO/Prosecutors can be overzealous, I also think that the totality of the circumstances can play a role. What was said in the dinner conversation? Was the offensive comment something like 'fighting words'? Was the 'apolgetic visit something less than genial'? Not to accuse the victims here, and not to make it all the victims fault, but the totality of the circumstances can play a role.

    Sometimes our decisions will have drastic consequences. When a male comes to my door demanding a reaffirmation of his sister's honor, the next thing I do is not walk over to her house and think that a nice sit down talk will be the immediate action to take. When talking with friends in a dinner setting, I tend to avoid saying things that would so besmirch another's honor that had it been the 18th century I'd be risking a request for a duel. And, I tend to avoid inviting over people so psychologically bent that they'd be liable to malicicously put me in prison for something I didn't do.

    All this is said with the utmost recognition that it's not the victim's fault, nor did they deserve this. But, the situations we choose to put ourselves in can have signficant effects on how our lives turn out. But yes, there are still those times when the universe points us out and says' 'you're in for a screwing'.

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