Male perspective: Respect vs Love?

[Lady Beretta]

Hubby and I have been chatting a bit lately, and he swears men in general prefer in long term relationships to have respect instead of love.

Now I say you can't really have love without some kind of respect but you can have respect without love.

At the end of the day when your head hits the pillow, is one more important than the other?

[gnbrotz]

Now I say you can't really have love without some kind of respect but you can have respect without love.

I agree.

At the end of the day when your head hits the pillow, is one more important than the other?

Love. Hands down.

[xxthe_beastxx]

Seems to me love is chemistry and respect is earned. Any man that is both loved and respected by his wife has the best of both worlds.

I truly enjoy my life filled with both. I can only hope that my wife feels as loved and respected as I do.

[PaGunNut]

My theory is that men want respect over all other things.
Money or material to a lot of shallow people = respect or false sense of
But in true love you have found something that transcends normal street cred respect you've found unconditional love. Someone that loves you unconditionally respects you in those vulnerable moments when you don't even respect yourselves. It’s all about the circle of trust!!! You know what I'm talking about.

[AKross]

Give the presented question I would go with love. Everything, even love is about balance. To much, it over flows and leads to misdeeds; to little and there is no true bond. Respect in a relationship should not be second guessed and should be shared equally. When one partner feels that their partner does not respect them enough or is being clingy I would say it is due to an unbalanced feeling of love. Then again I am just some jerk on the internet so take my opinion with a grain of salt.

[1861]

How could one possibly love someone they don't respect ?

[MuzzleFlash]

(Cue Johnny Cash's "Solitary Man")
Personally I really don't know what "respect" is, other than something minorities seem to demand at gunpoint. I "respect" my ex, in the same fashion one would respect the destructive power of a large tornado. Respect is hard to pick up on in personal and family settings because you're tied in so close you can say things that would be offensive from strangers. I want trustworthiness and reliability. There are plenty who I respect in their cunning nature but could never get involved with, many I could love and never respect due to lack of personal responsibility, but for anything long term both are required. At the end of the day what matters most to me is proof of love through reliability and trust, not having to worry "Oh I wonder what she's been up to now."

[soberbyker]

How could one possibly love someone they don't respect ?

I agree with the above statement, for the most part.

The word, respect, has a lot of meanings. For me the one that comes into play is ..

esteem for or a sense of the worth or excellence of a person, a personal quality or ability, or something considered as a manifestation of a personal quality or ability: I have great respect for her judgment.

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/respect

I definitely respect my wife for who she is and how she lives her life, and that is one of many reasons I love her.

Bill
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[1861]

I agree with the above statement, for the most part.

The word, respect, has a lot of meanings. For me the one that comes into play is ..



http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/respect

I definitely respect my wife for who she is and how she lives her life, and that is one of many reasons I love her.

Bill
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Agreed , too many people confuse respect with fear or intimidation . ( prison respect )

[DennisH82]

Respect is key you really can't love someone you can't respect. I might be a little jaded since I am on wife# 3 but love has many different meanings and depths. Both men and women have different understandings as to what love is.