we went through a few pistols trying to find one my wife would actually carry.
we found there was a big diff between the ones she liked, the ones she liked to shoot, the ones she shot well, and the one she would ACTUALLY CARRY.
My wife is very concerned about printing, and as far as where they will carry females are shaped different then men. In case you didnt notice
In the end she has a seecamp 32 now, loves it. Its pretty, stainless, hard to find, expensive, easy to conceal, she loves it for carry. Its not the best pistol for SD, but its a hell of alot better than whats sitting in the safe !
Dont know how close to PGH you are, but if you come to a PMSC/PAFOA group shoot PM me and we will bring it for your wife to check out. We also have a Kel-Tec PF-9 currently (might be trading it). Great gun, has had no problems of any kind, worked suprisingly well, super thin and light 9mm. Kicks like a fuckin mule! Was still too big for the wifey to carry.